This is a link courtesy of vag's jr. dink. Vag is a very wise woman.
She writes, "VICTIMHOOD: If being a victim is living with what someone else has done to you, why is “victim” such a dirty word?"
ETA: Since I have been volunteering in this area, I actually have spent a great deal of time thinking about this specific word and its often negative connotations. I am confused by that, but I think that 'victim' is a word that has a stigma attached to its meaning, and that's a shame. It's a shame that this factual word could be seen as shameful. It's about justice and consideration, as I see it. It's about getting your due.